American Born Confused Sikh

Please allow me to explain. Indian parents that moved to America from India and gave birth to children on American soil are facing a major dilemma. They try to be modern by getting rid of the forced upon arranged marriage concept yet, when their daughters reach a marriageable age, they say. . . "Child! Go and get married!" Or even worse. . . . "You're almost 30 and your not yet married!? Shame on you!!!" We young and naïve children think we actually have freedom to pick our own spouses. . .  but when we bring home the guys that we like or even mention their name. . . shame be upon us! And here's the thing. . . . most Indian girls aren't even given the opportunity or privilege to even speak to the opposite gender growing up. Many of our parents were and are just too strict. And then they get mad and upset  when we've reached a certain age and we are not married. We are constantly reminded of our single status. It's almost like we are a burden ...

I know. :(   It's been a while. . . . . I could give you a million excuses. . . some are legit, and some are not. . . but here goes. . . . #1. I've been sick! Yes! For real! Okay. . . . I have allergies. Not just the cute sneezing and sniffling runny nose allergies. Oh no.  I have had sinus headaches, swollen itchy eyes, and a constant sore throat. And you know what? Sometimes, it takes me weeks. . . months. . . or years to figure out truths that are so simple. Exhibit A: When you have bad allergies, go see an allergist! Don't go to the Walgreen's or CVS clinic. Don't go to your primary doctor (well. . . maybe, it's kind of a good start). Just go to the specialist. Every time I went somewhere else I was given antibiotics and yes they worked great while I was on them, but as soon as I got off of them, all of the symptoms came back. I was miserable. I wasn't myself. I felt a little handicapped. I finally saw an allergist and OMG, I can breathe again. I don...

Mr. Goa only got one date and you will find out why in just a few minutes. He only gets another post because the first post was more so about the history lesson he gave me! So, if I understand correctly, Goa is like Hawaii for India. It's the place where a lot of people go on their honeymoon. It has amazing beaches and people are always partying over there (at least that's what I see on Bollywood movies!). I was expecting a laid back Indian surfer dude but to my surprise I kind of got the opposite. A few hours before our date, Mr. Goa text messaged me and asked me what I was wearing. I thought to myself. . oh gosh, is he serious? I may end up cancelling based off of how this goes. He then asked me if I was going to wear heels. I thought to myself, what is up with guys and heels? I like wearing them but is he really asking me this now? He then asked me to not wear them. . . . . "Why???" I asked. "You are 5'6 aren't you? If you wear heels you might be...

Yes, lessons needed to be learned and gosh I sure did have some to learn! (Still do till to this very day!) Date #6 or should I say Guy #6 (since they started overlapping now) was from Goa. He was a very interesting and intelligent person. He was also an engineer. . . no surprise there! I was beginning to think that it was against the religion of most South Indians to not become an Engineer! j/k ;0 Now before I go into our interesting topic of discussion, I have to give you all some background info about myself. I don't remember if I mentioned this to you before in my previous blogs, but I am not Punjabi. :(. I know, I must have done something wrong in my previous lives. . . lol I'm going to try to explain this and condense this as much as possible for my non Indian readers. India: many states, many languages, many cultures, and quite a few religions. The Sikh religion originated in the northern state of Punjab hence 99.9999999% of all Sikhs are Punjabi. Yes, I made u...