American Born Confused Sikh

Weddings.  What is the first thing you think of? White dress? Alter? Church?  Indian Weddings. What is the first thing you think of? Red dress? Bollywood music? Elephants?  Punjabi weddings? Alcohol. Yup, that's what I thought. SMH (Shaking my head) Anand Karaj.  Bliss, peace, harmony, 1 soul - two bodies, Guru, Gurudwara, hukam, lavaan. Waheguru! Sikh wedding - What do you think of?  Is it an Anand Karaj? Is it a Punjabi Wedding? Is it an Indian Wedding? Is it all of the above?  Is it spending ridiculous amounts of money?  In 2014, Fortune published this: " The average American wedding costs $29,000 and has 140 guests, according to TheKnot.com. The average cost of an Indian wedding in the U.S. is $65,000 with 500 guests."  I think they were mistaken because further down in that same article I read this. . . . ". . . a wedding planner who does high-end events, pegs the average cost at $200,000. A typical Indian weddin...

Judgy. Is that a word? Yes! For real. I looked it up. Google it! Judgy: Included to make judgments; judgmental Judgement: the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions Sensible Conclusions. Hmmmmmmm Do we make sensible conclusions? Do we make conclusions? First of all, do we make sense??? I know that I am like this and I think other people are like this as well. When we meet a person for the very first time, within a matter of seconds we are able to pick up on a person's energy. We have a sense of whether this person has positive energy or negative energy. We have a sense of whether we want to open up to this person and/or if we ever want to see this person again. However, we can sometimes be surprised.  A person that seems to be narrow minded may actually be open minded and vise versa. And maybe that is because we didn't actually judge them on their energy. We  judged them based on their profession or their attire or their accent or other ...