Why is our community so JUDGY?

Judgy. Is that a word? Yes! For real. I looked it up. Google it!

Judgy: Included to make judgments; judgmental

Judgement: the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions

Sensible Conclusions. Hmmmmmmm Do we make sensible conclusions? Do we make conclusions? First of all, do we make sense???

I know that I am like this and I think other people are like this as well. When we meet a person for the very first time, within a matter of seconds we are able to pick up on a person's energy. We have a sense of whether this person has positive energy or negative energy. We have a sense of whether we want to open up to this person and/or if we ever want to see this person again.

However, we can sometimes be surprised.  A person that seems to be narrow minded may actually be open minded and vise versa. And maybe that is because we didn't actually judge them on their energy. We  judged them based on their profession or their attire or their accent or other worldly fa…

Why do Sikhs celebrate Bandi Chhor Divas SO much?

I grew up in a family of mixed faiths and mixed religions so naturally I grew up celebrating multiple holidays at multiple places of worship. As a kid, I would question why we do certain things but I always got vague answers and so my visions of understanding always had stopping points. One of these limited understanding holidays was and is Diwali. I was told that it was the festival of lights! A holiday to celebrate the triumph of good vs. evil! Yeah!!! Let me get my candles and incense and let's light everything up and eat tons of sweets!!!

Fast forward a few years. Oh wait, I'm a Sikh not a Hindu so I shouldn't celebrate Diwali.

*Blows out Candle*
Oh wait, Guru Hargobind Sahib the sixth Sikh Guru was released from prison on Diwali day in 1619? AND he released 52 princes along with him??? And this is called Bandi Chhor Divas?Whaaatttttt????!!! 
*Lights up candle again* 
Now I can light up candles at Gurudwara!? I'm such a good Sikh! Pass me those laddoos, will ya? 

Ciao Bella!


Where do I begin? Food. Mmmmmm yes. Let's always start out with the food, shall we?

The pizza, the pasta, the cappuccinos, the tiramisu, the ice-cream . . . . . . .

The pizza was made on bread so thin and so fresh and so warm that it satisfied every pizza craving I've ever had. The pasta was always made with this rich, creamy sauce that wasn't too heavy and wasn't too light. It was pasta and cream that was paired with cheese and mushrooms and peas and black pepper. So simple, yet so perfect. The cappuccinos were always served in a cute little cup with a plate and a small spoon. It was the perfect amount of coffee. And you only needed one packet of sugar. That's it. None of these tall, grande, venti fill you up with with preservatives Starbucks crap. (I'm sorry Starbucks, I still love you when I am outside of Italy! I am actually writing this blog from a Starbucks right now. LOL ) The tiramisu was the perfect combination of cake and cream which was so dec…

The Immigration Checkpoint

My Worldwide Travel Adventure Begins! First Stop: Europe!

I was all set to go and I had everything ready and organized. (Side note: Want to know something funny? I am currently writing this blog from the U.K. on a friend's computer and spell check changed my organized to organised. LOL I had to change it back and now it is underlined in red. So funny, so funny. ) Anyways, I was all set and ready to start my travels. I had my bags packed with clothes for every type of weather condition and every event ready. I had my passport and my cute pink passport cover and worldwide charger adapter and travel size toiletries ready. I had free international data on my cell phone and a cute pair of sketchers. I was set! 
There was just one thing. . . . . 
My wise and all knowing friend from the U.K. asked me a very important question. "Did you print out all of your itineraries and a copy of your travel health insurance?" 
Uhmmmm. . . isn't it 2017? Why do I need to print out anythi…

California vs. Texas


The lease to my 15 month term was soon approaching and I had to make a very important decision.. . .

Do I renew my lease?

I had given it over a year. I had a good job. I was making friends. I found some nice Thai restaurants. The mountains were lovely. But it wasn't the same. It could never be the same. Most importantly, there was a dark cloud over my head. A cloud that reminded me that my ex-boyfriend knew where I lived. My ex-boyfriend was only a few miles away. It was a cloud that reminded me that my ex-boyfriend knew that I was alone. I was alone.

I had become incredibly strong in the past year. I had found a strength within me that I never knew existed. Nope, not a weight training kind of strong. Not a "I can lift a barbell" kind of strong. It was a, "I can move to a new city all by myself and have a kickass year" kind of strong. It was a, "I don't have any close friends around me so I'll spend Friday evening with myself" k…

Getting over a breakup - The Sikh Way ;)

Getting over a breakup - The Sikh Way.

I know. I know! How dare I write about getting over a breakup when we shouldn't be dating in the first place! Well. . . . .the reality is that we are dating. We just hide it really well. We have boyfriends and we have girlfriends and we hide them from our parents. And then when the breakup happens, we have to hide the worst pain in our lives from our parents as well. Reality is engagements break off, divorces happen, and reality is that we hide the person we care about most from the world because we are afraid of society. I see it happen all the time and I know because I used to do this too back in my day. Nowadays, I pretty much tell my parents everything because I think they have learned to expect the unexpected from me and guess what? They still love me. :)

Now, before I get into this, here's a little disclaimer. I know I titled this "the Sikh way", but honestly and truly, these are all universal concepts. I just know that …

Why isn't the Youth coming to Gurdwara?

Gurdwara. The doors to the Guru. The gateway to the Guru. A holy and spiritual place where one can attain peace and tranquility and a connection to the divine. . . .right?

Oh wait.  You mean, you didn't reach Sach Khand last Sunday when that Aunty told you that you gained a few pounds in a the lungar hall?!

Throughout my life, every time I go to the Gurdwara  I am always asked the same thing over and over again by all of the elders. . . .

- Where have you been? We haven't seen you in so long!
- You have gained a few pounds. . . why are you so healthy?
- Why don't you bring your friends? We have a great program!
- You lost some weight. . . why are you so skinny?!
- Why isn't the youth coming to the Gurdwara?

Why isn't the youth coming to the Gurdwara? So many answers. So many reasons. And just one blog. I'm going to try. This one is for all of the Aunties and Uncles. No, no, wait. Not all of them. But a lot of them. But most importantly, this is for all of t…