Are you like on your period or something?

Am I on my period?

It's 3am. I just woke up from a deep sleep. Did I have a bad dream? Nope. Worse. I pull off my covers and I look down to see a huge blood stain on my pajama bottoms. Yikes! I get so mad at myself because I forgot to wear an overnight pad. I just wore a regular pad. I was even prepared this month! I had the pads ready to go at home! I move over a bit and alas, I stained the sheets too! I am mortified and I am embarrassed!!!

But,  I am extremely lucky and blessed. I quickly change into a clean pair of underwear and a clean pair of pajama bottoms and I quickly change my pad (an overnight one this time!!!). I am able to change and wash everything that got stained without anyone even noticing. I used to take these things for granted. I used to think it was such a hassle and an inconvenience, but what I just went through was a luxury. Wearing a pad is a luxury (especially an overnight one with wings!). Having clean pairs of underwear and clothes and pajamas is a luxur…

The Price of a Sikh Wedding


What is the first thing you think of? White dress? Alter? Church?  Indian Weddings. What is the first thing you think of? Red dress? Bollywood music? Elephants?  Punjabi weddings? Alcohol. Yup, that's what I thought. SMH (Shaking my head)
Anand Karaj.  Bliss, peace, harmony, 1 soul - two bodies, Guru, Gurudwara, hukam, lavaan. Waheguru! Sikh wedding - What do you think of?  Is it an Anand Karaj? Is it a Punjabi Wedding? Is it an Indian Wedding? Is it all of the above?  Is it spending ridiculous amounts of money? 
In 2014, Fortune published this: "The average American wedding costs $29,000 and has 140 guests, according to The average cost of an Indian wedding in the U.S. is $65,000 with 500 guests."  I think they were mistaken because further down in that same article I read this. . . .
". . . a wedding planner who does high-end events, pegs the average cost at $200,000. A typical Indian wedding has at least four events and requires 15 to 20 vendors. B…

Why is our community so JUDGY?

Judgy. Is that a word? Yes! For real. I looked it up. Google it!

Judgy: Included to make judgments; judgmental

Judgement: the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions

Sensible Conclusions. Hmmmmmmm Do we make sensible conclusions? Do we make conclusions? First of all, do we make sense???

I know that I am like this and I think other people are like this as well. When we meet a person for the very first time, within a matter of seconds we are able to pick up on a person's energy. We have a sense of whether this person has positive energy or negative energy. We have a sense of whether we want to open up to this person and/or if we ever want to see this person again.

However, we can sometimes be surprised.  A person that seems to be narrow minded may actually be open minded and vise versa. And maybe that is because we didn't actually judge them on their energy. We  judged them based on their profession or their attire or their accent or other worldly fa…