Krodh . . . continued

Sadh Cyber Sangat Ji, I'm okay. I promise I'm okay. I didn't write this to make me look like a victim or to make him look like a monster. I don't think I'm a victim and I don't think he is a monster. I just think he is immature and he doesn't know how to manage his emotions or stresses. (Who knows, maybe I am guilty of this too?) The reason that I am sharing this all with you is so that my sisters can be aware and step out of situations like this before it escalates. I am also sharing this so that my brothers can avoid thinking like this and hopefully prevent their brothers, fathers, and sons from thinking like this. . . .
The world is already so chaotic (Especially with Trump in the race). . . why are we adding more chaos?

The worst part about my previous blog is this. . .  and I'm sure you all saw it coming. . . he said it was my fault. He said I provoked him. Even more worse. . . I almost started believing it. . . .

And so the question that lies now is this. . . .Can a woman provoke a man to hit her?

Here is my answer: Yes, a woman can provoke a man to hit her but it STILL doesn't give him the right to hit her, to raise his hand at her, or to even threaten to hit her.

Please allow me to explain. . . .

Example #1

Let's say, that there is a car and a motorcycle driving side by side on the freeway. Let's say the motorcycle is in the far left lane and that concrete median barrier is to the left of the motorcycle.
The car is to the right of the motorcycle. Now, the motorcycle can go just as fast as the car (maybe even faster!) The main difference between the car and the motorcycle is the car has more armor than the motorcycle. Now, lets say the motorcyclist is taunting the driver of the vehicle. Let's say he or she is cursing and spitting and revving up it's engine and just being super annoying. Even though the driver of the vehicle is super annoyed, he or she still wouldn't even think of switching lanes, colliding with that motorcycle, and slamming it into the concrete wall. And also, think about this. . . .even if the motorcycle tried to collide into the vehicle, it would barely dent the car. But, if the car collides into the motorcycle, the results could be detrimental. Common sense, right?

You'd think . . . .

Example #2 (My favorite ;)

I have a husky and he is a big dog. Every day without fail, whenever he passes by a small dog, the small dog will start barking at him. That bark is so annoying, but despite whatever the small dog is doing, it does not give the big dog the right to pick up the small dog with its teeth and snap it's head off. And yes, a big dog can probably growl or bark back, but 9 times out of 10, the small dog will continue to bark. I can proudly say that nowadays, my dog just looks at the small dog and carries on with his business. (That's my baby!)

What I'm trying to say here is this: Guys, we know you are bigger on the outside. Now be the bigger person on the inside. Be the car that drives away from the motorcycle. Exit the freeway if you have to. Be the big dog that ignores the small dog and finds another spot to poop and pee on.

And ladies. . . don't be the small dog that barks at your man. You heard me, I'm talking to you! Remember when you threw his phone up against the wall! (His $900+ IPhone whatever number they are on now. . . !) Ladies, it is NOT okay for you to push your man, slap your man, throw his phone, throw plates, throw clothes. . . whatever. . . .

Couples are supposed to bring out the best in each other but if occurrences like these keep happening, it sounds like ya'll might be bringing out the worst in each other. And if that is the case, it might be time to find a new partner. It is always good to step away from an argument (unless you are leaving her alone in the middle of a park), take a deep breath and come back. And guys, come back quickly. If you wait too long, you just might loose her. . . .

Despite all of this knowing and understanding, some people just really do have a short fuse and it's not right and it's not fair for the other person on the opposite end. Whether you are a male or a female, if your significant other is abusing you physically or emotionally, cry it out, talk it out, and walk away. . . . otherwise one day, you may be forced to run away. . .

And parents, I'm on my knees and my hands are folded. Please don't hit your kids. I understand that sometimes your kids might need a "spanking". I don't have kids so I really don't know, but I was once a kid . . . If you instill fear into your children, they will grow up resenting you and hating you. They will lie to you, they will hide from you, they will sneak out of the house and probably mess up your window sill and/or garage door opener . . . (sorry Mom and Dad!).

The kara that we wear is not just a fashionable bracelet. It's a reminder. Please, please, please let it serve it's purpose. The Guru gave it to us for a reason. The next time you even think about raising your hand towards your loved one, take a look at your kara and take a deep breath. . . . .

We will never be able to grow as a community if we do not grow within our own households first.

Bhull Chuk Maaf
Miss Kaur

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